How can you tell if you’re winning the game of life? The standard scoreboard looks something like this:
Success: What have you done?
Stuff: What do you have?
Status: What do other people think about you?
What
if the way we keep score is not the way God keeps score? What if most
people are kicking their ball at the wrong goal? Then it will happen, as
Jesus said, that
many who are first will be last, and many who are last will be first. — Matthew 19:30
Our primary purpose is to know and love God, and before we leave the first page of Scripture, we learn a little more. Genesis 1:27 says:
So God created mankind in His own image, in the image of God He created them; male and female He created them.
Notice
that the first two lines say the same thing, in reverse order, while
the last one replaces the term “image” with an explanatory tag. What
does it mean to be made in the image of God? It means we are made “male
and female.” Why is that significant? Because of who God is.
Made for Community
The
doctrine of the Trinity — that God is a loving Father, his beloved Son,
and the Spirit who unites them in his bond of love — is a Christian
distinctive. It is also a huge advantage.
If God were merely a single person, as Jews and Muslims believe, He would be entirely self-centered.
How
could such a God love? He would have existed from eternity past all by
Himself, with literally no one and nothing else around.
Why
would this singular person create something else to exist? Perhaps He
was lonely, a single God, nonsmoker, looking for companions to enjoy
long walks in a garden that He would provide. This God would inevitably
sound desperate, as He had been waiting an eternity in what amounts to
solitary confinement. He would be too needy to ever love truly.
A
singular divine person might also create to show off His glory. Perhaps
He grew tired of appreciating His awesomeness and wanted someone else
to adore Him. This God would be just as needy as the lonely God, but
with a need for respect rather than a need for love. His quest for glory
might seem less desperate than the longing for love, but He would be
equally dependent on creation to supply what He could not give to
Himself.
Only our triune God can be entirely satisfied within Himself.
Our God is one, meaning He has no competitors. The Shema declares,
Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. — Deuteronomy 6:4
Our
God is holy and high above us. He is on the back of beyond, and
everything exists for His glory alone. Our God is equally three. If God
were merely one, then we might think He was self-absorbed. It might even
be a sin for Him not to be selfish, seeing how He is the most valuable
being in the universe. But if God is eternally three, a community of
self-giving lovers, then it isn’t possible for Him to be selfish. God
has always loved the other within the Godhead. His very essence is love (1 John 4:8).
Jesus
described the bond of love that exists among the divine persons when he
said the Father is in Him and He is in the Father (John 17:21-23). This mutual indwelling of the divine persons, what theologians call perichoresis in Greek and circumincession
in Latin, means that the Father, Son, and Spirit are more united than
anything we can imagine. None of them thinks, wills, or acts
independently of the others. The Father knows, chooses, feels, and acts
in the Son and in the Spirit; the Son does the same in the Father and in
the Spirit; and the Spirit likewise in the Father and in the Son.
The
closest we ever come in this life to imitating this divine
interpenetration is in the act of sex. There is a reason, beyond the
physical, why ecstatic participants say they “tasted the divine” or felt
they “were knocking on heaven’s door.” When a man and a woman join
bodies, they inevitably unite their souls, and their oneness is a
reflection of the God who made them in His image. This sexual activity
requires both partners to be unreservedly committed to each other. Any
sex outside of the ironclad covenant of marriage is bound to hurt, for
the wounded partners have ravaged what it means to be made in the image
of God. They have treated the climax of their human identity as if it —
and they — is nothing special. How can this not leave a mark?
The
perichoretic unity of God is also why, after our basic needs for food
and shelter are met, all other needs are essentially relational. The
scoreboard of life may include success and stuff, but both of these
depend heavily on our status. What others think about our success often
determines how we evaluate what we accomplished. Have you ever completed
a project and found few people cared? Maybe you put together a
4,000-piece jigsaw puzzle, wrote a book, or won the Most Eligible
Bachelor Award at your local Comic-Con. You may have excitedly shared
your success with family and friends, but if they merely shrugged, you
gathered that what you did was not terribly important.
Relationships
are also essential for enjoying our stuff. I once spent a lonely couple
of days on Italy’s Amalfi Coast. Its hairpin turns and ancient villages
clinging to the mountainside are achingly beautiful, but I didn’t enjoy
them because I was missing my family and yearning to go home. A fine
restaurant on an Italian beach isn’t much fun when you’re dining alone. A
Hawaiian luau is even worse. I once made the mistake of going to one by
myself, and I spent the entire night trying to disappear into clumps of
people. I was in paradise, and I couldn’t enjoy it because I had no one
to share it with.
The Grant
Study attempted to define the good life by tracking the lives of nearly
three hundred Harvard men. The study began in 1937, when the men were
sophomores, and it followed them for more than seventy years through
war, career, marriage, divorce, parenting, grand-parenting, retirement,
and old age. George Valliant directed the study for four decades, and
when asked, “What have you learned from the Grant Study men?” he
replied, “That the only thing that really matters in life are your
relationships to other people.”
A
poor man surrounded by friends has wealth beyond measure, while a rich
man with no one to call is pitifully poor. Why? Because God is triune, and He made us in His image as relational beings.
Excerpted with permission from Becoming Worldly Saints by Michael E. Wittmer, copyright Zondervan.
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Your Turn
It’s
so easy to slip into line with the world and keep score according to
the world’s definitions of success! Usually, we introduce ourselves to
new acquaintances with our name and our occupation. Often the
conversation continues to where we live, where we went to school, and
where our kids go to school. Michael Wittmer asked the question What if we’re kicking the ball at the wrong goal?
Who are your key relationships? Who knows you and knows your story, the
good and the bad? If you’re lonely and longing for relationships, may
we encourage you to join a small group or Bible study and build
relationships there. Loneliness doesn’t indicate anything bad or
shameful within you. It’s a reflection of who God is and what you need
in order to life a full, happy life! Join the conversation on our blog
today. ~ Devotionals Daily
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